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Old Mar 13, 2016, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted by BudFox View Post
I'm not saying more therapist self-disclosure is better. I'm not saying less would be better. I'm suggesting that it's so difficult to find this elusive balance, not because the therapist is screwed up or is using the wrong approach, but because the whole relationship is so contorted and contrived -- in my experience. My last therapist did not know how to respond to half of what I said because of all the whacked out constraints and rules. Anything said by either of us was scrutinized under the microscope. Every gesture, every facial expression, even the silences were analyzed for their therapeutic meaning.
I'm just reporting on the difference I saw between the analysts (who are required to undergo their own years of analysis) and therapists (who may or may not have had counseling). I also see analysis as different than therapy. Mainly though, I was commenting on my own experience of the two different types of psychotherapy, based on the practitioner's own level of self examination.

I'm not sure if you've been through Jungian analysis, but it is an entirely different animal. I couldn't hack it. It's hard to explain here, but it wasn't examining facial expressions and minute gestures. It was just very deep work. Very challenging. I'm not promoting it or defending it, and certainly not disagreeing about the very serious flaws in the industry as a whole--just saying that I notice when a practitioner is held accountable to high standards and they have done some work of their own, it has shown in our interactions. I quite liked them and found them to be humane and not the paint by numbers therapy I've seen done by others.

I don't know what my current therapist's experience with therapy has been. She's said she has a therapist, and she doesn't tend to get wrapped up in her own stuff. Whether or not that's as a result of work she's done for herself or just who she is, I can't know. I do know it's a crap shoot to find a good therapist and that the industry does a hideously poor job of monitoring itself.
Thanks for this!
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