I just finished the book A Shining Affliction by Annie Rogers, and at the end she talks about how psychotherapy is flawed in many ways (and she's a therapist), and she talks about a lot of hte same stuff as you, BudFox. But, she managed to find a therapist who accepted all of her, and it really helped her be able to live her life more fully and sane. I would write it out, but it is a few pages worth.