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Originally Posted by Wandering Soul
Thanks. Last week I went to two language meetups, one was good, the other one not as good. The reason for that, in the first group we were only 4 on one table. I prefer small groups. Also there was this man who was very educated and knowledgeable, and we had many common topics we could talk about. The other one was more chaotic (we were around 14 or so in one long table). It was noisy, and I wasn't very comfortable. So, yes, I prefer small groups in closed spaces. But it also depend on the people. I joined an introvert group, and seeing what they have to offer. I have a full picture of myself (taken by someone else), and I'm proud of how I look  . |
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Well, then maybe you should just stick to the smaller groups from now on. I hate large groups! It's really hard to connect with people and find others to talk to. Like I said before, it seems like you have to be an extrovert to be able to grab and hold other people's attention for more than a couple of minutes. It seems like there is always that one loudmouth that hogs the entire conversation most of the time, ugh!
They're so annoying! I don't think that people are judging you as much as you think they are. Even if they really are, ignore them. People like that aren't worth talking to or caring about. Try to open up more and talk to people. If you come across as being to aloof, then maybe some people will assume that you don't like them and avoid you because of that.
You need to prove to them that you're not unfriendly unfortunately. Try asking people questions, compliment others, try to make small talk, and try to smile at other people. It's hard, but you can do it if I can! And that's great that you are proud of the way that you look btw-
And definitely try to talk to other people first. Don't wait for someone to approach you first. As I said before, look for another shy or quiet person to talk to.