An update on this situation. In late January, I asked the guy, D, to add me as a friend on facebook (in my message, I just said "hi, I'm friends with Pastor T (my pastor), please add me"). So D added me as a friend, with no reply message.

Last Sunday, the pastor told me that he had lunch with D, out of town, and that D had mentioned me and was blushing when he talked about me. So I assumed D brought me up on his own.

Then, last night, I asked my pastor what D said about me, and my pastor said D didn't say anything about me. Pastor T told me, that he had said to D, there is a girl I want you to meet (and mentioned my name) and D said something about adding me as a friend on facebook or wondering who I was.

Now my pastor asked me if I messaged D, yet. I said that I don't know what to say to him. My pastor said to say something about my being a friend of Pastor T, etc.

Now I don't know what to do. I am open to meeting this guy but I think Pastor T should be the one to set this up since he started this and I don't feel comfortable messaging this guy and asking him to meet me.

I also don't know if I should message him on facebook, and what should I say? How do I do this without coming across like I am chasing him or something? I have been crying about this because I feel so frustrated with the situation.