This is just a general overview of both your posts, the red flags I see... and keep in mind, I'm speaking strictly from a woman's point of view. You might consider reposting in the Men Focused Support forum.

Like I said, generally speaking, you seem to be more focused on Things and not so much on Love. Although you do mention it, it's more of an afterthought. The sexual part of your relationship with this woman seems to stand out a lot more. Take it from someone who had a FANTASTIC sexual relationship with my husband; I know the difference between sex and love. Love is an active commitment to the person. Sex is only the icing on the cake. When the sex goes, if that's what your relationship is based on, the relationship goes. Believe me, the sex will go eventually for any number of reasons.

Your career seems to be much important to you at this point in time, also. There's nothing wrong with that. In your best interest, however, you need to concentrate on that and make that a success before you think of starting a family.

As for your girlfriend, I feel totally sorry for her that she allowed herself to become so involved with a man whose values are so different from hers. I know how she feels about having a family. She should have thought, beforehand, about the age difference and her own time clock.

Knowing what I know now and had I been in her shoes, I wouldn't have allowed such a deep relationship to form. If you do marry her and start a family, there are going to be many resentments build both for you and for her.

FYI: I was married almost 12 yrs the first time and I've been married 32 yrs this time. Lousy lover the first time, no love. Wonderful lover this time, but when the sex went, the whole thing went. However, I did manage to "steal" one child from him which he resented for a long time. I resent that he resents it.