Revenge isn't healthy & replacing love with hate isn't the solution either.

Dealing with the grief of the loss of what you thought you had & what you had hoped for, then get on with a NORMAL HEALTHY life that you haven't had for awhile.

You don't want to give your kids a view of how not to behave when bad things happen in one's life....it's better to teach them how to handle difficulties with grace & honor & a lot of self-esteem rather than lower one's self to the lowness that one has been given by the other person.

I know that revenge feels good.....but honestly, so does getting on with life & making it successful & showing them how great life is without them without doing it through revenge & posting crap on FB that isn't true just to stab them with it.....you don't want to teach your kids childish reactions but responsible mature reactions to bad things happening in life even if it takes longer to show the results, the end results will be much better & give yourself a lot more self-respect.

I left my H after 33 years of a bad marriage. Life was hell living with him & I bought a farm 2100 miles away & left. I have such a wonderful life now & honestly never even missed him when I first left. When I realized that he was never on my mind at that point that there was a really good indication of just how bad the marriage was.

For me, I don't think there was ever a feeling of love in the marriage from the beginning & there was no emotional connection I found out only 2 years ago why that was & to my surprise....it wasn't because of me. When a marriage is bad & we are so busy trying to make it work, we don't always see just how bad that other side is until we are finally blessed enough to be free of the bad marriage & we can finally see the big picture.

Be glad that the other woman is the one having to put up with that jerk & you aren't the one that has to any longer. Use is as something you are grateful for rather than angry about & you will be able to feel better a lot sooner than holding onto the anger.