Sometimes we all react first then think later because we base our reactions on our emotions rather than our logic. Doesn't mean that you have to continue reacting on emotions at their same level of lowness.

The kids may not know now.....but there will come a time when they do & there's a lot that kids are aware of that we don't even realize that has an effect on them even when we don't realize that either.

My parents were totally dysfunctional though they thought they were JUST FINE & that some day I would see how wise they really were....that NEVER happened & I finally (at the age of 62) realized just how dysfunctional they really were & that it wasn't just my negative point of view of them. They were nice people......but their dysfunction had a great effect on me that I wasn't even aware of until just the last few years since I have been able to make changes in my own life that has brought light to how their behaviors had really effected me & had been the foundation of why I did things the way I did.