I'm in the midst of trying to get an issue straightened out with a group I'm involved in, and one of the leaders I had hoped could be reasonable about it, instead just made an assumption (accusation?) and said, "I'm sorry your feelings were hurt".

Anyone have this happen? I get the sense it's projection on her part. She gets her feelings hurt, so she assumes that must be what happened.

It's not helpful in getting the problem solved. I laid out the issue, but instead, she's attempting to change the issue to "my feelings."

And it's done in a way that now I must defend myself.

Is this common? The way I am interpreting it, it seems to be an example of victim blaming.