I guess my definition of friendship is much looser than most. If they listen to me at all it's a friendship. I just think it's subjective based on the individual. I just feel that this neediness thing is like an internal organ - it will take a lot to remove it. I really don't know anything about relationships and I got s lot of swimming to do before I can even think about letting somebody in my comfort zone. The sad fact is that my hormone level may shrink to a negative number before I get any sort of attachment. A year or two ago I was ready to coast out of here solo. Then the nightmare hit that I'm still vunerable to the pangs. I don't know if I'm real happy with this realization because I don't want the struggle. So on we go.