Your grieving doesn't seem dysfunctional to me, BudFox. You are learning and giving good information to others who might be helped by it while you are doing your grieving. You've brought up some excellent points in all your posts, and I am glad to have read the ones i have.

I used to think the world of therapy but am much, much more skeptical now after reading everything here about how people are harmed. I was also harmed myself by a therapist years ago, but for completely different reasons. All that i've read here has allowed me to take a more objective look at it, and think about all the faults. The industry can do much more to protect patients. There are many arguments of why/how this can't work, but there is no excuse for not providing more research and information about poor therapy. But it's much like the health care industry.

I do agree with ruh roh, that it's very much of a crap shoot, at least much of the time. But it wasn't all luck-I am extremely selective of therapists and have done hours and hours of research years ago when i started (to protect myself), but people shouldn't have to do that; not everyone can or has the resources anyway.