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Originally Posted by eskielover
Don't be hurt.....this is just showing his true colors guilt tripping you.
If he had truly wanted to celebrate your birthday with you he would have communicated it long before you made the plans with your friends. If he's that bad at communicating & they laying the guilt trip on you for making your plans when he never said anything in the first place...you are so much better without a jerk like him.
Just remember guys like that NEVER take responsibility for their own bad behavior or their lack of ability to communicate. I was married to a guy like that for 33 years. He never communicated about anything & when something went wrong because he hadn't communicated appropriately, he always blamed the world on being against him.....ugh, you don't want to go there.
I honestly wouldn't waste my hurt emotion on the likes of a guy like that. Ending the relationship is the best....but no matter what you tell him, he will never believe it's his fault so don't expect to get that kind of satisfaction in the breakup.
If he really cared he would have realized within himself that he needed to say something earlier & logged it in his own mind for the next celebration & not laid the blame & the guilt trip on you.
That is just tacky & truly uncaring & would fall under the category of emotional abuse & when it comes out in little ways like this, there is more & worse to come. Obviously he's not the kind of person who apologizes & admits he's wrong....NOT a good characteristic to tie oneself to.
Wise move to dump him.....Is that what's called self-fulfilling prophecy.....he asked for that treatment & if he's treated other women that way it would be no wonder they treated him that way also.
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Thank you very much for the reply
I guess I just thought he'd end up seeing he bigger picture and apologise as we could move on instead he's saying that I need to take responsibility for my actions
He totally lacks empathy which I've said a lot and never apologies. I wonder why I ever stayed with him for so long