Hi Winterrose!!
Thank you for backing me with Dustin. I am getting a bit concerned that he's focusing too much on his T as a person than as someone who's trying to help him separate
his feelings. I went thru this many years ago, and with only
one T myself, but she and I spent the better part of my late
20's and early 30's together intermittenly thru those years.
If you don't love someone by then, it's not going to happen.
She told me up front though, that we'd NEVER have a friendship.........that this was a "working" relationship and that there would come a time when I wouldn't need her anymore. At first I was crushed to think I was caring for someone that wasn't going to reciprocate to me. I was hurt
but didn't understand back then, what our professional link
would be. I guess I was hoping, like Dustin, that she might
tell me she loved me and said she would be there any time
I needed her. After that I had to sort of nurture myself for a while and then went back to her and things were fine from there on.
I thought about going back to her, but it would be a long drive into San Diego, and I figured the traffic wouldn't be worth the stress. I chose someone I had taken my own daughter to and went to see her. We have been working to manage my bi-polar disorder since last Dec. It's been great. I do not pull the same kinds of things on her tht I pulled on my other T, as I'm in a different place now.

I want Dustin to be aware of the dangers ahead if he keeps
thinking that this is going to turn into "real" love. It's not. I promised him that. I do not want him getting hurt, or hurting
himself by thinking that that could happen.

Anyway, thanks for the vote of trust. I hope he understands
I'm just trying to show him another venue to go....that's a one way street he's thinking about taking!!!