I could probably.. put here DID and it's "gifts".. and it would probably sound the same as your post...
I have worked on teams.. all of my working life.. as a member and also as a project manager...

I also think that "people" in general have a whole range of "working modes" - that the most effective managers that I have had... are the ones that utilize each person in their capacity.. in other words..."slow and steady.. like rock people", "fast and ligtening speed people" ..." considering descion making people"..in my opinion there is a place for each on a team... that is why they call it a team...so that when the appropriate situation arises.. you have a "person" with that style that can effectively handle it..brings out the "best" in a person for that person.

So my advice would be to look into some training.. and if you are new to project manament.. go easy on yourself.. there is a big learning curve...don't be so hard on yourself... you will do great....