I'm at once or twice a month now (after starting to see new T in early January -- I think this week will be 5th time or so that I've seen him). I honestly feel very frustrated about the timing of appointments and really can relate to the feelings you described in your post (I feel awful being "needy" and worry that I'm asking for more than I really should need or deserve). I feel like I spend a lot of time thinking about stuff on my own now and just kind of a complicated mess of feelings about it still (I really feel kind of resentful/bitter/ashamed when I read that other people get to see their T way more frequently, pretty frustrated that I'm stuck doing so much on my own, and have a lot of different concerns/worries about being excessively difficult/annoying/needy).

I hate confrontation, but this has been really bothering me, so I actually already asked about it last month (I think by email initially -- just asking if it would be possible to schedule more frequent appointments). He seemed somewhat resistant to that idea (suggested we talk about it in person). I figured that was a no, so hoped he would just forget I asked, but he brought it up in person, and I basically backed off immediately then (this is very common pattern for me though -- while I usually can ask initially for something I need, if there is even slightest amount of resistance to my request for help, I usually end up feeling extremely uncomfortable and rescind request as soon as possible).

I think I probably will ask one more time (next session is later this week) and then just end up seeing somebody else if he can't fit me into his schedule more frequently. Mainly, I think it would be helpful to me (and maybe for you and your T, as well), if he could explain more about how he makes decisions about frequency/scheduling. I think we seem to have very different opinions about it and I don't understand if it is just a logistical issue or miscommunication about needs/expectations for therapy. I have a feeling it is more of the latter (which may be relevant to therapy actually -- like the stuff I mentioned above with asking for help and such), but if it is just a logistical thing, then that might affect my decisions going forward also (if I do really need more help/support, then may be possible that this just isn't going to work, and I need to see somebody else instead who has more availability).