Yes this is different I know but my therapist recently had me draw up three pie charts - yes sounds silly. The first chart was to identify the person I used to identify myself to be. The second was to draw one up of what I consider myself now to be. The third then was to consider where I could restructure that pie finding places to squeeze back in what I'd like my life to look like. The exercise was supposed to be about recognizing what I've allowed to take over my life and where/how I could realistically change that. Just a thought.