Something that really bothers me is that I feel my T isn´t "warm" enough. It´s hard to tell if it´s me as a client who has unrealistic wishes about her or if she really is too "cold" for me.

My former T was more warm-hearted or I felt she was. With my new T I feel there´s something "in the way" and even if she is pretty engaged and interested in what I tell her, I feel something is missing.

Perhaps it´s her modality but she isn´t a kind of blank slate T either, she shares about herself and such.

But overall I don´t feel she cares that much and sometimes it´s like she has heard about everything before and what I say isn´t something new to her. Although I´m a totally different person than her other clients of course.

I know this is something to talk about in therapy but when it comes to a T being warm, interested and so on I would never find it genuine if this T suddenly acted more warm after I told her how I feel.

If she did things to please me or to just adjust because I told her, it wouldn´t matter as I would just apprehend that as being false.

What to do?