You guys are confusing. I focused on us being soul mates because everybody else kept focusing in on that and questioning it so I gave my input about that and honestly I was very polite with my response to that person. They were rude and I didn't like it. Very simple. I also don't respond well to sheer ignorance and I know he\she can't help that they don't understand what it's like but either way I just didn't want to deal with it. Despite this being a public forum, you also need to acknowledge that not everybody is going to get along either and I personally don't like confrontation or arguing with people which seems to be all I'm getting here. I don't know what you're trying to say there at the end of your post but I'm guessing right, do you really expect people to respond well to you suggesting they leave their spouse despite whoever or whatever that person means to them? I assume this because I've got this feeling from your posts a number of times and saying "what does it matter" makes me think you're meaning he's not worth it regardless. I may have it wrong there but just stating my own understanding and just so I'm really clear I didn't come here for marital advice. I'm here to learn better management and coping skills. That's why I explained my husband's situation so everybody can understand what I go through and help me to acquire a higher standard of understanding towards my husband and towards myself to cut on guilt. I hope I've made myself clear this time around, if not I don't know what more to say and maybe this isn't the place for me.