I don't self-harm and never have. I'm glad to hear all your stories about therapists not reacting in any bad ways to these scars, I think that is very important. My therapist recently told me he ended therapy with a client just because he had cut himself and that he would end therapy with any client who had a suicide attempt. I am deeply disappointed to hear this, on a professional as well as human level. Personally I have never felt like cutting would bring any relief, but if I did it, I would not feel safe to share it with my therapist anymore. If I self-harmed and needed help with that I would look elsewhere.