My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. She is 19 years old and I am 21 years old. Other than typical issues young couples have our relationship has been great, in my opinion, and I love her dearly. We have been living together for about 5 months now. She has recently moved out and got her own apartment. At first her reason was that we argue too much and she needs her space. She has just told me the real reason she has moved which is that she can not tolerate my children. I have twin girls, 3 years old. They arent the best behaved children but then again what 3 year old behaves perfectly? They are very talkative and don't listen to what she says and half of the time they dont listen to what I say. She also has a 2 year old daughter, whom I look at as my own daughter. My issue is that I am now doubting our relationship and her love for me. How can you love someone and not love their children? I've accepted her daughter, who is not the best behaved child either and I've grown to love her. I just dont see how our relationship can grow. She wants to spend the days after work at her apartment together and then sleep together at my apartment. But she says when i have my children, which is 50% of the time (I have joint custody with my ex) that she wants to have her apartment as an escape to get away from them because she's not happy when they are around and they give her a migraine. What do I do? Can we move past this? If she doesn't care for my kids now and resents them because they dont behave, will she ever love them and be able to be a step-mother to them? I am very hurt by this but I appreciate her honesty I dont know how long shes felt like this but she has been supressing it and I'm happy it came out because I wasn't sure what was making her unhappy and its affected my self-esteem. In my mind it feels like I have an ultimatum to choose her or my children which i would without a doubt choose by children because the circumstances seem ridiculous and unstable. Am I over thinking this or is this usual for couples under the same circumstances as us.