I have something to add here-- rape is when one person clearly states that they are not comfortable doing any sexual act "no", and the other person performs it anyway. I have been raped many times in my life- there are different forms of this type of violence. It can be brutal, it can also be subtle, or latent violence. An example of brutal rape is when the victim is actually physically assaulted in the process (hit, punched, etc.). A more subtle or latent violent rape is simply when one person says no and the other performs the act anyway. It is rape. And it doesn't matter what anyone says. If she said "no" that makes him a rapeist if he did it anyway. I am recently divorced, and this was one issue that just recently, I have begun dealing with. I think, when my husband did it, he was trying to punish me for being in love with someone else. He says now, that he doesn't remember it though. I don't know whether to believe him or not. I know it happened, he just doesn't like for me to call it rape. Once, I said that, he stopped admitting it and apologizing. I can remember everything about it, the conversation following even. Good luck, to you and your friend. Don't know what advice to give, having been a victim myself. I am going to sexual assault counseling. I start in about 2 weeks. Hope this helped some....

Bri7