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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
He's a keeper. And good for you to keep pursuing this. I had much the same experience with my T, and although countertransference can make the work more complex, if recognized appropriately, it can also enrich the process. Those feelings don't necessarily have to be an aberation or a hindrance--they can be genuine and reflect the best of what the relationship can be.
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Thank you FKM, I agree. I used the word countertransference and he said he was reluctant to use that word, because it insinuated the feelings were a response to transference, and he wanted to be clear that he owned them as his own feelings, originating in him (we said that they're probably a mixture, but it's impossible to untangle the origins completely).
I can't imagine this being anything less than positive going forward; you are right that it could be a complication, and I welcome that caution, and I also agree that managed appropriately it can enrich the therapeutic relationship. I hope (and suspect) we both have the awareness and openness to make that possible.
Right now I am basking in the glow of feeling cared about, and I feel like I can indulge in that feeling just a little
