I thought that was a very thoughtfully written article. I can relate to a lot of the writer's experience. It is so easy as the client to believe that you are doing something wrong and the reason why it isn't working is you. T1 was so sure of himself I felt it must be me causing the problem. If I hadn't taken a break from him and consulted with another T, I probably never would have left him.

As a trainee T, this resonated with me strongly:
"I attempt to repair some of my personal therapy wounds by trying to do better with my own clients."
If nothing else, I want to be able to say I have learnt from my experiences with T1, and that I understand what it is to be a vulnerable client. Similarly, as a parent, I aim to break the cycle of poor parenting which has permeated the maternal side of my family, and to have a healthy, stable relationship with my children.

Also, the bit about the underwear was disgusting. Reminds me of using T1's toilet and finding he hadn't flushed (only urine thank God!) but that underwear story is more than I could take!