My first attempt at marriage was to a royal creep! As is usual in the immature woman, we think we can love away their "creepiness," nurture them into being what we want or think they SHOULD be, bring out what little positive we see. Worse still is "if we have a baby, he'll have to change, behave himself, become a good provider, love me back because we made a baby together." BUNK! They are who they are and NOTHING will change them unless somehow, some crisis makes them see that they ARE wrong and need to change. And then, there's those that don't have the courage to change and want YOU to make things happen for them. That doesn't work, either.