Hello! It's a pleasure to meet you.

I'm unsure how to start this, since that is somewhat of a vague question, I'm sorry to say. I really depends on who you ask, as you will get many different answers depending on how relationships have worked for them personally. As for me, I'm somewhat of a selfless person, and I don't think of myself that often. Coincidentally, I end up getting into many relationships and friendships where my kindness is unfortunately taken advantage of. That may not be as big of a coincidence as I had originally anticipated. You can be kind, but please do care for yourself as well. At least, that's how I see it in my eyes.

Because if you care for yourself, you can stand up for yourself when things aren't right. When people say you need to love yourself before getting into a relationship, I think they mean that you need to care for your own physical, mental and emotional boundaries. If those boundaries are crossed, you should speak out about it and not be silent about it. Basically, be honest with how you feel. Communication is always the best way to work out problems and is key to a great relationship, in my opinion. If you be quiet about how uncomfortable, upset, or sad you are by a person's actions just for their sake, they're going to keep doing it, because they don't know it's bothering you. If they do know it's bothering you, you have every right to leave.

I suppose that term means, like I said before, to be aware of your own boundaries, beliefs, views, and things of that nature. Don't let people take advantage of you, and look out for yourself, as well as others. I hope this helped in some kind of way.

Have a wonderful day, and thank you for reading!