Welcome to PC....

Your question is a bit complicated to answer in one post with just a glimer of information...

My former spouse suffered from an eating disorder...support can be very scary for someone in his position. Telling you about it ... now makes you an "unsafe" person in someways...you know the secret...the secret itself can for some hold much power...so there may be some future denial of this in the near future...that everything is ok now...

The first thing you will want to know that it really isn't about the food...there is something going on much deeper...you mention depressed...was this from your observation or from a therapists diagnosis?

The second thing you will want to know that there is very little you can do to make him worse...there are some things that can do to help...but it will really be up to him to make a choice to get the help he will need to begin to overcome this.

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