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Originally Posted by cinnamon_roll
Echos,
I'm glad to hear that you and your T were able to talk about it all. Did you bring it up? Did you also talk about you feeling kind of dissociated in the session that was at the beginning of this? Just curious...
Your T sounds amazing. I'm so happy for you that your T is self-aware enough to own his/her part of what's going on in session and to talk to you about it - so that you would be able to understand what's been happening between the two of you, that's simply wonderful. That's the ideal, really, but I've met enough Ts over the years who weren't able to do this and blamed everything on the client...
Also I loved how careful he was around "labelling" all this as countertransference. He seems to be very much aware of nuances and differentiates very carefully.
It seems to me that you are able to learn and grow from this experience. And your T not only seems to be an awsome T but also a wonderful role model for you.
Best wishes, c_r
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Thank you CR, I really felt like I had to address it the minute I sat down because it had been consuming me and making me miserable all week, so it would have been incongruent to ignore it, and I don't think I would have been able to discuss anything else when I was feeling that way towards him. We didn't discuss the dissociation because we spent the whole session on the rupture, which seemed most urgent, but I do plan to discuss it with him at some point.
I was so impressed by his honesty and, as you say, the care he took in helping me to understand exactly what had been going on for him, and where it has come from.
You're absolutely right, he is a wonderful role model; as a trainee T, experiencing such an awesome therapeutic relationship has been so important and he has set a great example for me. He's also giving me the perfect space to navigate my own internal landscapes.
Thanks so much for the thoughtful reply.