I agree to your viewpoints but the thing is that I have, even in a more non-direct way, told her what I value in therapy and not. I have brought several exemples of how I felt my old T helped me, that I felt her warmth and that I appreciated that she once called when I didn´t show up for our meeting.

I have also mentioned quite a lot of things that have disappointed me within friendships, where I feel I put more into a relation than the other person.

I have even said things like I value shaking hands as a goodbye and that I like being polite and apprehensive to other peoples feelings.

But nothing happens! It seems like she just sticks to her only way of doing therapy and all I say just goes past her.

She never brings feelings into therapy, I now mean asking like "how did that made you feel" and similar. She doesn´t seem to care about me at all.

She has very many clients and I don´t feel I matter to her.

Even if I tell her about those things I´d never believe it as honest gestures if she for example began to follow me to the door to say goodbye.