Sometimes really controlling something is not trying too hard and not fearing any loss of control. It just goes wrong when you get afraid of, or excited/challenged by, the world around you.

People that you might alienate clearly don't know you. If they turn their backs on you, you backed the wrong horse and you can now focus more on actual friends. Even if it leaves you with no-one to be yourself around, in good and bad times, I'd say that's preferable.

Insofar as SZ is a lifestyle (it partly is, in many ways, many times: a personal choice (only) equipped to deal with incessancy and severity of psychotic problems), I take the good parts from that (no longer feeling you have to achieve in the eyes of others) and balance it with the fervour and drive of BP. I take the relative ease of letting go of control a bit that comes with a BP personality "disorder". If you're more flexible (relatively speaking), you will break less often. Borderline is preferable to being in the middle of the war zone and it can be a big relief. ***** anyone else. All in moderation.