Bill3 - I don't know how to do the quote thing on here yet (still new!). But what you said about her feeling needed, I hadn't really thought about it. I think in some ways that could be the case - she's making me feel bad because in some twisted way she wants me to be upset and need her.

So now that I actually do need her (and need her to stop acting like this), hopefully she will come around. It's still messed up if this is the case, but at least I can work with it. If she admitted something like this I would just tell her she doesn't have to do this. I can tell her that I do need her all of the time, even if I don't always show it.