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Originally Posted by bellaluvluv
Hello everyone,
I hope everyone is doing well  . I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is a big gamer. I knew he was a gamer when we met but since moving together I have notice it's a problem. I work from 7AM TO 330PM everyday. He will literally game all morning until the following morning. He may take a break to come in the room and say hi to me. Lately I have been feeling extremely extremely lonely. I spoke to him about it several times and most of the time he gets upset and irritated about it. I even asked him "you don't think there is nothing wrong with gaming all day and not spending anytime with me?" Yep you guessed it he does not. He thinks the 5 min, 10 min, or 1 hour is enough out of a 24 hour day. If he does spend the day with me he will literally games all day everyday for a week and say "but I spent Saturday with you". At this point it's extremely annoying. I resent him a lot because of it and honestly I just feel like either moving back home or getting my own place. It's really hard to communicate with him because he does not understand. He always says things like "but we live together and I see you all the time" I get sooooo irritated when he says that. It has come to a point where I miss my prior relationship because I never had a problem like this before. My last relationship was very different. We talked to each other and was with each other often. I'm surprised he noticed me pulling away from him. Lately I just been going to moms house a lot and occupying my time to get him off my mind. But I'm doing it in such a resentful way. I really need help with this. I really do care and love him but I feel like if things don't change I may have to say goodbye. I just feel like I don't have time for this.
Thank you reading I hope to get some good advice |
You met him and he was a gamer. Gamers do this. My suggestion, sadly is to move on. The last thing any person, male or female should do is change the other person for their own benefit. If you already appealed to him about this and he is not willing to do anything differently then that is really all you can do. You cannot make him change his habits, only he can.
Possibly your walking out will do one of two things. Either he sees that he should spend more time with you and gaming isn't worth losing you over or you find out that this is what he wants to keep doing and it would be fruitless for you to continue to try and change that. That's about the only action I can think of to change things.
on another note, when you met him, did you not realize that gamers, much of the time place a high importance on their games and spend a lot of their time playing them?