i am not so shy... i used to have bad social phobia, i still have social phobia but its not as present as what they said were the avpd traits...
for me i like to be around people, i like people in general, its just easier not to be around anyone... i go through different phases but its usually the same thing - just avoidance... but manipulation seems to play a role too, to try to control situation so that i can be around people sometimes but have specific outcomes so that i wont have to go through certain scenarios... but it is tiring to be so analytical and trying to be in control of whats going on all the time... so i tend to isolate most of the time - which i dont mind being alone... i like the calmness that is around when there is no outside influences to make anything bad happen... but i like to be with people, so its different than being afraid to be around people... like my social phobia used to do - its not so much fear with avpd i think... atleast not for me...

but i have to talk to a therapist about this to get into more detail because only recently psychologist told me i seem to have these avpd traits...

dunno if that explains anything, i have heard that avpd is severe sad too but i dunno.. kinda seems different to me... social phobia can sometimes not be present, atleast in my experience sometimes my social phobia was alot worse than somedays.. where as these avpd symptoms seem to ALWAYS be there...