Stay strong. For whatever reason this guy is incapable of REAL emotional connection & it doesn't matter what the reason, the treatment is completely unacceptable & that is the bottom line & should NEVER be tolerated. When we start to tolerate bad behavior, then they take even more advantage of us.

One of the last conversations I had with my H was him saying that he just thought I could continue tolerating him for the rest of our lives because I had tolerated him for so many years. You don't want to get into that kind of situation even if the guy has no idea that you are JUST tolerating him.

Be thankful that you have seen his true colors NOW & didn't let it get any farther than this in your life. Red flags are important to notice & to pay attention to. I noticed them before I got married but got talked out of them & then ended up talking myself out of the red flags & finally left 33 years later because of the same red flags I saw before the wedding.

Life is too short to waste dealing with abusive, self-centered, immature people who have no desire or ability to change.