But it seems like you really sorted it out now! He was honest, and you know what you want, - to stay with him.

I had thought that he was stepping in to your offer to back down and give him rest was unfair on you. I hadnt thought of it like April said. Just out of interest, which do you think would have been more helpful to you, for him to accept the offer and allow you to sacrifice, OR, say, if he'd said something like
"I notice are you offering to back down when you have real needs here..........?"

So much that happened to me, in therapy, was me not defending myself, ..............sometimes she'd sort of argue with me like anyone in the street, like "NO, I never!", not
"what is it about this that you feel so stongly about?" or anything. Now I'm confused. I spent all that time just not being able to defend my truth, and getting triggered inside. But, i was also trusting her...............................


I have a feeling I've wasted so much good emotional energy, and didnt ever feel it was resolved, more just dissolved and slid into a slump, ..............and i feel I've lost a lot of the good impetus that took me there, Iv lost my grasp on the passion that I had for the issues I needed to deal with, but I've lost some passion for life too, I feel weak, it could have been so much better.

April, do you think thats what she was doing? is that really the most helpful way for a T. to be??
any comments welcome.

riverx