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Originally Posted by ilikecats
Tonight I told my mom I sometimes think I might be bi. I thought she'd be totally cool with it, but I was a little surprised/disappointed by her reaction. She said if I was, it would be hard for her, and that she thinks it would be harder for me. She also said she doesn't really believe in bisexuality, and that people are either straight or gay. She said something about it probably being a phase. I told her bisexuality is real, and that there's asexual people too and it's all on a spectrum. Then she asked me if I'm "oversexed". I said no, it just means I'm attracted to both guys and girls. I know that if I figure out I really am bi, and if I eventually tell her, she'd still love me. But it seems like she wouldn't really understand me and she wouldn't be pleased about it. I'm not sure what to do. I'm pretty sure I am bi, but I don't think I'll be 100% sure until I get some experience with both guys and girls. But once I do, if I realize I am bi, I have to deal with knowing that my mom would rather me be straight. I'm not sure what I'm asking here. Maybe just to know about your experiences with this, or some support or advice, or to know I'm not alone. Thanks!
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I didn't think I'd share this part of my life with anyone on here, but I feel like it might help. I'm pansexual, I'm female and currently in a relationship with another female. Just because your mum doesn't believe it's possible, doesn't mean it is. I dated a guy when I was 17, it didn't go anywhere sexually, because it didn't feel right for me, but I fully believe that Love is love, gender doesn't determine who we love. And it should never stand in the way of true happiness.
My Step dad (1 of my abusers) would constantly mock me because he once saw I was texting a girl. He told me I wasn't gay, I was being stupid. My mum only cared about biological grandchildren, but my dad had the best reaction.
Anglo, 2 of my best friends are gay. Do what makes you happy.
So my advice to you is, be happy for yourself. Love is natural, it's happiness and safety and isn't defined by genitals. Your mum should be happy that you're happy, and if she's not, that's something you'll both have to come to terms with. But she's still your mum, she still loves you.
My partners mum told my gf to have sex with a guy to make sure she's a lesbian even though my gf knew she was gay. Her mum hated me, threatened to beat me up before she met me. I met her mum, and we got along really well. Now her mum brags about her daughter in law. Hopefully your mum will see that you are happy with the person you fall in love with, and she may even really like your partner be it male or female.
Be True to who you are or you'll never be happy.
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