Rainbow -

I'll preface this by saying I really enjoy your posts, including your honesty and willingness to share.

But at the risk of sounding unsupportive, I don't think there is much of a chance that you will get closer to your therapist by telling her you researched her daughter. It seems equally as intrusive as house drive-by's. I believe a therapists family is generally an off limits topic to introduce, especially if you gave her the opportunity to talk about her daughter and she didn't share freely. She may not think its a big deal if you bring it up, but by the title of your thread it sounds like you know you've already crossed the line.