Something I have struggled with all my life is being able to get angry. It scares the bejeesus out of me, probably because of my childhood being full of anger and physical violence.

How does one go about learning to get angry in a healthy way? What is healthy anger? I feel like I have no idea about the boundaries one should follow when getting angry. I mean, I know that I will never hurt or hit someone ect..is any of this making sense?

I am scared to allow myself anger because to me anger equates with violence in my mind, and although I know that to not be true as well... it is there in my subconcious.

Wondering if there are any folks out there who have been through this and have any ideas?