Kids do this because they'll take any kind of attention, even negative. In fact, the more negative the better because the reaction is stronger and more dramatic for them. Are you going for reaction? Any kind of reaction as a way to "feel" the connection? You keep saying your attachment to your T is "secure" now, but it isn't coming across that way in many of your posts. You are still very focused on that connection and attachment, so it still seems rather insecure. You may not agree with that I realize, but it is something I've noticed a lot out of your posts in the last few months