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Originally Posted by BudFox
Did she disclose how she works with this sort of thing, what to expect, or even why it is a good thing that you have developed feelings for her? Hate to be the bringer of doom, but I wonder also in these situations to what extent the T is intoxicated by the flattery and might start feeding off it.
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I'm happy you bring this up. I had my following session yesterday. After our last session and yesterday's she was able to figure out my transference was reflecting of my ex-girlfriend. She showed no indications of being "intoxicated" by the flattery or even feeding off of it. In fact, I feel as though it was the complete opposite. Our session yesterday had her further try to understand my feelings towards her and we were able to both work out an issue I have when it comes to relationships - whether friend, family, or romantic. Not sure if it's entirely related to the transference, but it only helped hit the harder stuff.
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Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress
Forgive me, No offense intended but the word "feeding" has a very negative connotation and it feels inappropriate to apply to someone else's positive experience .This is an account is a great of example of a "transference" session handled perfectly well.
First of all , It doesn't really matter what the T feels about only inasmuch as it affect the client. A T can feel what they want about a client. The point here is the this T made the CLIENT feel better about it all, which is the T's job.
I'm concerned that posting "Doom and Gloom" questions presuming sinister motives of any given Therapist, when nothing in the OP's T implies that perspective, could discourage other people from sharing their own needs when they want to.
Transference, feelings, etc happen in Therapy. I dont' see any reason to assume the worse of every T out there. It's my belief that, despite the stories heard here, most Ts are good at handling it, as they should be.
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I mentioned in my first post that I felt safe with my T and I stand by that. I had a negative experience with a T prior to her two years ago at my university that made me brush therapy as an option altogether. My T has not made me feel uncomfortable. When she needed to say something that she believe would make me feel uncomfortable or even insult me, she would give me a warning before she would give her opinion on some of the issues we have worked on during therapy.
As curious as I am on her opinions of me, that is in the back of my mind and we're currently working on another topic that has taken priority before the semester finishes in six weeks.