I wish I could describe my own sexless marriage, because it really bothers me. When I just typed it all out, I felt disloyal to my husband for sharing something so intimate and I guess I realized that I am still angry about it.
I am 18 years younger than my husband, and he has diabetes, which means the couple of things we tried at the beginning didn't work and he has shut down, sexually, I can barely get him to kiss me with tongue. I know he loves me. He does things for me all the time, he communicates with me about a lot of things, he is non-sexually affectionate, he spends his time with me.
What I am angry about is first, that he never told me about the fact that he had never really enjoyed sex much, in the past ( not with me....we have never had sex ) He told me he had ED and he made out with me. But now he will not do anything to "frustrate" me and I am extremely frustrated by this situation. He knew I was a very sexual person before we married, I was married to an extremely sexual person, who actually was a sex addict for 21 years before this. But I didn't like feeling like an object. Now, I would just like my present husband to touch me, or express interest, even in his eyes, or kiss me with passion. But it doesn't happen, and I love him, I just wish he had been more honest before we married. Now, I am stuck in a situation that I can no longer have sex, because I refuse to cheat or end my marriage. And he refuses to get help.
I try to just not think about it, but it comes up every once in awhile, and it depresses us both when I confront him again about not getting psychological help. I understand he has been hurt by a psychologist in the past, but I wish he would just try.

I hate hurting him, and he hates hurting me, but it is just so horrible.