Even from miles away (2100 to be exact), I decided to get a lawyer to make sure everything was done legally & to protect myself as best as I can financially since that has been the biggest problem since I left.

Complications like my name is still on the loan to the house, but the house is upside down & can't sell & he can't qualify to remortage the house on his own even though he got the loan modification, with just him qualifying.....BUT that didn't take my name off the loan if he were to do anything stupid like he already did & let the house go into foreclosure.

I finally got the IRS paid off....LOL...using ALL his retirement money....but he's the one that blew it & refused to take the taxes that year when my mom died to the accountant that I had doing my mother's final taxes. I was still dealing with PTSD & wasn't functioning enough to DEMAND he took the taxes to the accountant & he was always a know it all & could never admit that he didn't know something.

It's really bad when something financial comes back to bite you & can end up costing MORE than a good lawyer to protect yourself.