I think it is normal to search our providers. In fact T told me she researches all her providers. I don't know to what extent she does though (facebook, etc). She tells me a lot about her personal life including her child and boyfriend. She has shown and emailed me pictures of them. I have also met her boyfriend a few times. One time in public the rest of the times at her home/office. He thinks I am a friend of hers as it was not during office hours and whenever we refer to each other to other people we have agreed to say we are a friend...even though we are not really friends. So I doubt she would be surprised to know I have checked out her son and boyfriend's facebook pages and a few other things. We just don't discuss it.