Gaming can divide any relationship especially if both parties aren't interested in it. And it is true, that not all gamers have an addiction to gaming. For some people, gaming is a way to decompress from a hard day at work, just like those people who go to the gym or go on a long walks to decompress.

However, if gaming takes the place of normal day to day activities it can become a strain on any relationship. If your boyfriend has lost his job, perhaps extreme amounts of gaming is his coping mechanism. He may also be having a hard time dealing with the fact that he doesn't have a job. So, it's easier to just game and avoid life. He may also be having a hard time processing the fact that he isn't contributing to the relationship financially. However, if gaming was something he did prior to loosing his job, then it's a behavioral issue that will probably not go away (especially if its a passion).

For the job hunt, it is true that when looking you need to spend the time as if it is a full time job. Perhaps you could encourage him to find a new job, or mention to him that there might be job fairs in your area...etc. Ideally, you would want him to work to help out with the bills and rent.

Maybe talk to him, on his time, about you moving back home. You could mention to him that you are starting to feel the financial strain with him not working. Of course, if you get any sort of positive response from him, it may prompt him to start looking for a job.

You may need to consider telling him that his excessive gaming is taking the place of you, and you feel that it isn't fair. And for long term, do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who does nothing but game?

I honestly have no issue with gaming in moderation, but when it takes the place of someone it becomes a problem.

And is he the one for you? I can honestly tell you that gamers will be gamers will be gamers. The best relationship for gamers is to be in one with another gamer.