My nature is to ask questions,to search for"why" things may have gone wrong in certain situations and then try to "put them right".I can spend a great deal of my time doing this.This applies to relationships as well as other situations in life.Yet,when I look back on things ,in general terms ,things seem to have a greater chance of turning out the way I want them to if I relax and back off. In fact there's an old saying ""By letting go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning." The more I go through life,the more I believe this to be true..........................so why am I not very good at it? !