its hard on your significant other to try to handle all of our problems... alot of times normal people wont realize what we feel..
i know how you feel about trusting her and talking to her about things because i did that once... it was just easy to talk to her, but i think it was a bad thing because it makes them feel bad... im not good at relationship advice but i can tell you have feelings for her...
i dont think its good when she is telling you she doesnt love you like before.. love changes after you been together for some time... in the beginning its like a blazing fire... but after a while it calms down, thats not such a bad thing if you both are happy... i know for you its probably the same as it was with me, my fire never really calmed down because of the feelings i had for her... but her not having the same issues as me i guess her fire went out...
this is a really scary thing... the only thing i can say to you is to try to be honest and understanding... have a real good talk about it and all... but can't talk about problems everytime you talk to her... need to enjoy each others company and be able to make each other feel good...
like i said im not good with relationship advice because i have a lot of problems in that area... but i know this is important to you... have you asked her what she wants you to do? or what it is that is making her unhappy..?
does she understand that avpd causes these fears...?

its ok to rely on her but i think its hard on the other when we have to rely so much...
it is a good idea to make friends but thats not easy... maybe you can just talk here sometimes to let off some steam instead of putting everything on her plate so to speak..?

im probably not making any sense and my post is all scrambled...
just wanted to stop in and say a few words... relationships are hard...
how old are you both?