Property is a real problem in divorces. If the split of the assets isn't possible without selling the house, then there's not much of a choice. My lawyer even wrote to my H that he would be given so many years to sell the house after the divorce to get my name off the loan if he himself can't refinance it. Though I don't really know what can be done legally if he doesn't since we live in different states & I left 8 1/2 years ago.

From my understanding even in my out of state divorce is that in the end a judge has to approve & give a final judgment on the division of the assets unless the agreement is a part of the divorce....in states that are equitable division of property verses 50/50 it might work for him to just give you the house but then mostly you will have to give a lot on your part to make that equitable.

That's why it's important to have at least a consult with a lawyer to see what they say. But the bottom line comes from a judge no matter what even when you do the divorce yourself.