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Old Sep 06, 2007, 08:03 AM
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I use to feel that way. For me it had to do with not being in the moment/looking forward. I went to my 30th high school reunion in 1998 and I can't tell you how painful it was! The students for that high school came from my first 2 elementary schools (I moved in 4th grade (1959) and came back in 11th (1966)), my first where I lived with my father and brothers when my mother died (1953-1955) and then the second where "we" got married to my stepmother (1955-1959). I was miserable in that high school (1966-1968), had few friends but one of my two best friends from when I was 5-8 years old (1955-1959) was at the reunion and I'd brought photographs from 1st (1955/56) and 3rd (1958/59) grade and she knew/remembered everyone in them and dragged me around and introduced me to people who were there; she and I hadn't seen/talk to each other in high school (much less any of those other kids from the photographs)! I was at the reunion with one of my two best friends from high school and the reunion took place at a hotel in the same "neighborhood" I lived in in my 20's (the worst/hardest period of my life, 1973-1985) of course :-) but was in the hotel where my father and stepmother use to go dancing (1956-1957) and I can still picture my stepmother all dressed up and their going out, etc. As you can see, I felt like I had whiplash :-) Of course, my T was away for six weeks during the reunion so I had to "contain" all that myself. Ugh!

It's hard to learn to face forward so the past stays in the past and just seems a "curiosity" that's occasionally fun to share with others.
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