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Originally Posted by Bill3
The craving you feel for emotional connection goes back to your childhood. Your wife, no matter how loving, cannot meet that primal need. Your counselor, though, can help you address the past.
How does your wife's manner with you compare with the way that your mother treated you, and the way your father treated your mother?
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You are so right. If I understand you correctly, you have just began going to T? If that is correct, you will learn a lot and you have a ways to go in T. For me, when I started marriage Counseling it was about us. I can't fix us, I can only fix me. 3 years into counseling I am still working on me and discovering ugly truths. The marriage T turned into individual T. There I learned to trust my T, which is the first time I ever trusted any one. After that my world became a little safer and I begin to remember things and work on things that I never thought was possible.
My only advice to you is Work On You, You can only change YOU. Once you become the best you can be, there is not much room for improvement. (not much, there is ALWAYS room for improvement and changes always need to be made)
Marriage is not a 50/50 venture. If one person gives 50% and thei other does none you still don;t have a successful marriage. It is a 100/ 100 venture. 100% by each person involved.