I just can't accept. I find it impossible. I think until my brain hurts for answers. But when things can't be fixed?

I had to give up on a friend who stopped taking care of himself. He felt like he simply didn't need to, others could do things for him while he was eating himself to death. At the same time starving, refusing anything with nutrients. It took me years to accept it. That I had to let go. That someone that once was able, choose to drug himself into something no one can recognize, with food and tons and tons of narcotic prescription meds his doc is pushing.

I tried to "save" him, for old time sakes. I regret any effort now. But it is hard letting go. But I finally managed.

My other friends who are in trouble (and yes it does have to happen at the same time for some reason), want to live, but it seems like they are not allowed. One was kicked out of psych care and is not allowed to return (we can't choose whom we see here, and you cannot force a doc to see you). She desperately needs help. She has suffered so long now from depression and very extreme anxiety. I've read all the rules and laws and no, she doesn't have rights. Still, I'm very surprised she managed this far in the bad shape she is in. I worry about her. But I can only be a friend, not a doctor or a therapist.

A third friend is going to be banished from my country on false grounds. I have looked into everything it seems, chased every dang loophole but everything I find when looking closer, I realize will not work. I can't fix it. She will be sent to die whether it will be war, starvation or assault. It really tears me apart, shreds me. I. Can't. Stop. This. From. Happening.

There is so much suffering and I cannot do a thing.

How can anyone accept what must happen? Because of inhumane rules in one case and corruption in the other. What takes my breath away is that they don't have to die per se, they are not yet physically ill or dying. Yet they stand no real chance.

Of course it is worst for THEM. Nothing make it as hard for me as it is to them. Still I so so so need to DO something, and I already tried what I could. How do I deal with having no power over this?