A related topic: the notion thst the world doesn't owe you anything.

When an adult wants something and can't get it, it is despicable, entitled and wrong for them to feel bad about it. They're supposed to work and slave away, do whatever it takes. Or, just give up, accept that you will never be loved, wealthy, happy, sociable, or whatever. Feeling bad is not an option, working harder is.

I don't know what it is exactly about this paradigm that disgusts me so much. Maybe I just see it as futile. Maybe I'm an entitled, whiny little ***** who can't stand reality invalidating her worthless feelings. But for the things I want - is it worth radically altering my appearance to be lovable? Is it worth adopting the right interests at the expense of my real ones to be respectable? Is it worth spending years studying subjects I don't care for and am not good at to be employable, or spending even longer in poverty to try to build marketable skills on my own?

Or maybe it's just easier to not even try. But I'm not allowed to feel frustrated, or lonely, or depressed, because it's my own fault for not modifying myself in accordance to what others want. The world doesn't owe me anything, after all. It feels like I - like any person, could lose either way, unless pure chance delivers a nice thing or two. And we're still not allowed to feel anything about it.

You're supposed to only get what you earn, or so say the articles that come up when I googled "the world doesn't owe you anything". I think we all know that isn't true. Another says "the world owes you nothing; you owe it your everything". Perhaps this is my sense of entitlement speaking, but that's a terrible deal. Plus, it's entirely possible to put in an effort that deserves success, and fail. Really now, why even bother? Also, why are these things supposed to be motivating?