I'm sorta the same way but I'm learning to do more for myself. I have a birthday coming up and I want my hair done and something new to wear but I'm having the hardest time making an appt with a hairdresser! I HATE the way my hair is now, but something keeps holding me back. I've got clothing bookmarked, but I just keep going to the pages and just looking! ggrrrr My underwear is not holey, though! When I was a child, my mom had me put some of her folded laundry away and I saw a pair of panties that were all full of holes. I got sassy with her and asked her why her underwear was like that!! Why didn't she buy new ones?? Nothing like throwing guilt my way! She said she used the money on clothes for me. To this day, I refuse to wear holey undies! Bras? That's something else. I'm sure my boobs look all deformed when I put one on! Most of the time I go without... just like my mom. Well... at home, anyway.

Maybe it's all in the way we were raised. "Give before you take." Then you wind up giving, giving, giving and there's nothing left over for us. I'm working hard on breaking that habit!